Living Full Out

Radio Show Guest Appearance

I had a great time appearing with Nancy Solari on her nationally syndicated radio show, Living Full Out!tom-martin-coaching-living-full-out-radio


My Living Full Out episode, When You Believe You Can Overcome Limitations as You Live Full Out, originally aired on February 10th. Nancy and I discussed overcoming adversity and finding hope in the most challenging of circumstances. Plus we talked about the life lessons I’ve learned from battling merkel cell cancer three times and how this was a catalyst for me to leave the automotive industry and become a certified executive coach.

You can listen to the Living Full Out show using the Spreaker Audio player below. And you will find my two segments with Nancy starting at the 15-minute mark of the show. 


I share my story to share the life lessons I’ve learned along the way and even offer hope. You are not alone, and feel free to reach out with questions. You can learn more about my cancer journey on my blog and also in the Huffington Post feature, Voices of Strength – Stories of Survival  

What is Living Full Out…

Living Full Out is a way of viewing your world – your circumstances, your goals, and your life story – as a springboard to success.

When you’re living life full out…you take the bad with the good and see setbacks as a chance to grow. You never settle for stuck, never run from a challenge, and never rest on your laurels. You wake each day excited to greet what will happen next.

When you’re living full out…you feel free, strong, and capable. You are known as someone who is inclusive and supportive, who always looks for the best in any situation. Areas in your life where you feel limited suddenly become open and free, goals that were unattainable become easy to accomplish. Watch results roll in, new opportunities appear, and relationships grow. Anything is possible with the right mindset, embrace it all and keep moving forward!

About Nancy Solari…

Nancy Solari is an authentic, passionate, and successful example of how you can live the life you want with an empowered and positive mindset regardless of the challenges you face. Nancy has first-hand experience with major challenges. When she was sixteen years old, Nancy was diagnosed with Retinitis Pigmentosa, and over the years experienced subtle yet measurable vision loss. Nancy chose to plow ahead, rather than let the news kill her dreams and now shares her tools for success with audiences and groups all over the country.

After years of proving to herself that nothing could stop her from living the life she knew she deserved, Nancy started her business, Living Full Out, to help others realize their dreams. Besides writing books and providing personal coaching, Nancy also speaks professionally, reaching out to a variety of audiences who enthusiastically embrace Living Full Out. In addition, Nancy hosts the inspirational variety talk show Living Full Out, and the national Living Full Out with Nancy Solari radio show.

You Have Power Over Cancer

You Really Do

It’s “stage-four cancer“, were the words my oncologist shared with me on February 16, 2011. 

Learning you have cancer is a life-altering experience. Hearing your cancer has returned is unimaginably disheartening. But when you find out your cancer has returned for a third time with a stage-four diagnosis, it is devastating….especially if you’re going to propose the next week.

Power Over Cancer

Ironically cancer brought us together in the first place. Shari and I knew each other casually, but when my Merkel cell cancer returned for a second time she was one of the first people to reach out to me.

Cancer Milestone

I have had March 3, 2015 circled on my calendar for almost four years. The date represents a cancer milestone for me, and an anniversary of a conversation which was filled with wisdom.


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4 Months, 4 Years, or 40 Years


1. A stone functioning as a milespost.

2. A significant event or stage in the life, progress, development, or the like of a person, nation, etc.

Actually the significance of March 3, 2015 points back to a pivotal conversation which occurred four years earlier on March 3, 2011. On that day my fiancé and I were meeting with the Pastor who would marry us. Mike Teston asked us to share our stories and why we wanted to be married now rather than in the fall which was our original plan.

I shared how merkel cancer had returned for a third time with a stage-four diagnosis. Shari told Pastor Mike how she wanted to be with me through the radiation, chemotherapy, and surgery regardless of the outcome. In the two hours we were together, questions were asked and answers given, tears were shed, and prayers were prayed.  As we were saying goodbye Mike said,

Defining Moments

If we take time to examine our hearts we will find moments in our lives which define us. Typically these defining moments are found at the end of a long road of pivotal circumstances. And those pivotal circumstances, positive or negative, can leave our lives forever changed.


Several years ago Jeff Goins was promoting his new book, Wrecked, he asked people to share stories of when their lives had been “wrecked.” Jeff published the story I submitted and today I share an excerpt of Damage Goods with you today.

Early on we both knew where we were tracking as a couple. Our relationship was so rich, the conversations were so natural, and our values and beliefs were totally in sync. We were confident the path we were on would lead to marriage some time in the fall of 2011. Our plans were for an extended courtship, not because we weren’t ready to get married, rather because we wanted to do everything we could to protect and ensure Shari’s teenage sons had time to adjust to a new man being in their lives. 

What Breaks Your Heart?

The year began with the pastor of my church asking a simple question, what breaks your heart?


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An easy question to dismiss by some who already had more pressing questions awaiting answers. A difficult question for those who had an answer, but who knew if they acted upon their answer they would find themselves outside of their comfort zone.

What Breaks Your Heart?

What breaks your heart was certainly not a of question I wanted to be asked right now. I thought to myself,

of all times for Andy to ask this question, why did it have to be now? 

In my eyes the timing of this question could not have come at a worse time for me. I was in the midst of starting a new company while working through the course work and mentor training to obtain my PCC accreditation. Yet in all my busyness, Andy’s question traveled from my mind to my heart and there was an answer which had to be addressed. 

Why Me cancer, Why Me?


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Recently a friend of mine shared with me an article written by former White House Press Secretary, Tony Snow, prior to his untimely death from cancer. In his article Tony shared his thoughts concerning his diagnosis with a potential fatal disease and the obvious question…why me cancer, why me?

Sadly our “why me” questions most likely will not not be answered to our satisfaction until we find ourselves in Heaven. Theses unanswered questions usually lead us to a fork in the road where we either blame God or learn to trust God in the midst of our why me” circumstances.

I know in my three bouts with cancer I initially wallowed in the “why me” for quite some time, but eventually I was able to look past the diagnosis and place everything in God’s hands learning to trust God period in all things…even cancer.

Your journey, my journey may be unique, yet we share one thing in common…how do we answer the question:

What do you do when this is nothing you can do?

Well there is one thing we can do…we can journey together in community, supporting, caring, and praying for each other.

Leave a comment with your contact information at the bottom of the post to join the Leveraging Life community so we can journey together. This will offer all of us the opportunity to support one another and encourage each other to trust God period when we find ourselves in situations where questions are unanswered and anxiety is high.


Cancer’s Unexpected Blessings

By: Tony Snow (1955 – 2008)

Blessings arrive in unexpected packages, in my case – cancer.”

Those of us with potentially fatal diseases – and there are millions in America today – find ourselves in the odd position of coping with our mortality while trying to fathom God’s will. Although it would be the height of presumption to declare with confidence ‘What It All Means,’ scripture provides powerful hints and consolations.

The first is that we shouldn’t spend too much time trying to answer the ‘why’ questions: Why me?

Cincinnati Bengals Show Class


Most NFL prospects who are cut prior to making the 53 man roster consider this point in their life to be the lowest point in their athletic career. Yet Cincinnati Bengal Devon Still, is unlike any NFL prospect, as he was cut but now can focus his attention on his daughter, Leah, who has been battling Stage 4 pediatric cancer since June.

I completely understand where the Bengals were coming from when they cut me because I could not give football 100 percent right now, Still, 25, told ABC News.

Help Fight Cancer Today

It takes a village to raise a child…is a quote most of us have heard, and something which depicts the role a community can play to influence and impact the trajectory of a child’s life. As a cancer survivor, I believe the same thought process can apply if you want to help someone fight cancer.


It takes a community to win the war against cancer and you can help fight cancer today!

Let me introduce you to my friends David and Lynn Walker, fellow Alpharetta residents and members of North Point Community Church who are at war with cancer. David has already gone to war with cancer twice and was recently informed he must battle once again as cancer was found in his brain and liver. Radiation and chemo are underway but aggressive therapies like “high-dose” Vitamin C infusions are not covered by his insurance.  To further compound the situation he lost his job due to the fact his is prohibited from driving for a period of time due to the medication.

Forty Year Prayer

The forty year prayer is actually a prayer I hope to be able to pray for the next forty years. The forty year prayer was something which resulted during a meeting Shari and I had with the Pastor who would marry us. Like most newlyweds, we had to meet with our Pastor to be interviewed before he would consent to marry us. Unlike most newlyweds we were planning our wedding in only 21 days as a result of news my cancer had returned and had spread throughout my body. With chemo, radiation, and surgery on the horizon time was of the essence and details had to be finalized immediately. As we met with Mike Teston and shared our personal stories and our story as a couple, we knew a bond had developed that would continue beyond our wedding day. As our special time together came to a close, Mike stopped to pray over our marriage and the impact it may have on Michael and Matthew (Shari’s sons) and our future together as a couple with God at the center of everything. He then added:

Tom…I don’t know if you have 4 months, 4 years, or 40 years but I do know God is faithful and He has a plan for your life, with or without cancer. God knows both you and Shari, He knows what’s on your minds, and He knows what’s in your hearts, and my prayer for both of you is to let everyone know your Faith lies in Him…regardless!

This forty year prayer, our milestone prayer, is something Shari and I have prayed now for over a year. And today as a result of this prayer we have created a $40 challenge as a way to raise money for cancer research and celebrate our journey of Faith.

We celebrated when we reached 4 months and I shared my thoughts last year in my Milestones post. We believe another amazing milestone would be for our Leveraging Life team to beat last year’s record of raising $4,237.00 for cancer research during the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society’s North Metro Light the Night Walk.